In Japan on the second monday of January, young people age 20 (or turning 20) celebrate the Coming of Age day. They usually held a party with friends or family, attend a ceremony held by the local government or some private organization, where the girls will be wearing a "furisode" and the boys wearing a "hakama". The ceremony is to celebrate and recognize them as "new adult", when they are legally allowed to vote, drink and marry without parental permission, but at the same time, are also subject to all laws and social responsibilities.
The custom has been carried on for hundreds of years. I wonder if to this day such ceremony has an impact on how young adults think and behave, perhaps to some. In recent years there have been incidents of poor behaviors of young adults after during or/and after the ceremony. Meanwhile older generation talk about how young people being so used to the comfort of living in current peace and stability, that some tend to lack maturity, discipline and independence.
In the evening, I watched a group of girls in "furisode" walking out from a game center, perhaps it was after they attended a ceremony or had their dinner party. I was almost lost in words when my daughter asked me, what are those girls doing in a game center wearing such a pretty kimono. Well, playing games is still better than getting drunk and becoming violent, i thought to myself. So, i said to my girl, "they are just having fun".
Sometimes, it is not the ceremony that matters, i guess, since it is more the "mindset" of each person, on how one defines an adult. Having said that, i need to remind myself if i am truly ready for my coming of age ceremony .... well, i never had one.
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